Lex orandi, lex credendi – the law of prayer is the law of belief. In other words, your prayer life reveals your faith. To apply this to the present topic, the way you pray for your children reveals what you believe about God and your children.
- Do You Pray for Your Children?
- That is, do you specifically, intentionally, and individually set apart time to pray for your children in times other than major events, crises, or for unusual needs?
- Why Do You Pray for Your Children?
- That is, are you motivated by love for them, and not a desire to check a Christian box, or to be seen as a good parent by others, or simply to pray away a tendency or habit you find annoying in them?
- When Do You Pray for Your Children?
- That is, have you established a pattern of prayer for them? A certain time of day? A certain time during the week? A certain time in the course of a month? A special, focused time at the beginning of the year?
- How Much Do You Pray for Your Children?
- That is, do your actions match up with your convictions? Is raising children one of your primary tasks on earth? Is praying for them an important component of that mission? What do you spend more time doing than praying for your kids? Are you okay with your answer?
- How Do You Pray for Your Children?
- Not so much the mechanics (closed eyes, bowed head, special prayer voice), but in what manner do you pray? What do your prayers say that you believe about your children? Are you praying in faith? Are you praying for Christians? For maybe-Christians? For hopefully-someday-Christians? If your kids overheard your prayers for them, would they be more assured of their salvation, or would they hear doubt in your prayers?
- What Do You Pray for Your Children?
- That is, do the contents of our prayers reflect our deepest priorities and desires for them? Do we pray the American dream for them instead of God’s dream? Are the contents of our prayers for our children shaped mostly by their felt and expressed needs, or do we also shape our prayers for them by the Word of God?
- Here are two helpful prayer guides to lead parents in praying for their children:
If you are not a father, I would encourage you to think of how you can play the role of spiritual father through prayer to the children who are members of this congregation. (Think kind older friend, not creepy uncle). For Dads, use these thoughts and prayer guides, adapt them as needed, and accept the weighty and glorious responsibility of prayer for your children.